March 31, 2010
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{Sometimes it’s hard to be a Woman…}
Last week what I thought was a slight touch of the stomach flu…
turned out to be a urinary tract infection…
which turned out to actually not be one…
but some kind of “abnormal bacteria” that masks itself with the same symptoms…
which I guess I’ll continue to have on and off throughout pregnancy…
which isn’t dangerous to me, but is to baby if they don’t catch it in time..
which now they have…
so I’ll be treated right before delivery for it and all should be fine!But jumping back a bit for a moment~
while still taking the prescription for what they thought was the UTI over the weekend I kept feeling increasingly worse instead of better.
Which if anything this experience has further taught me when it comes to being sick~ listen to your instincts!
By late Monday night when I began to have some profuse bleeding {which scared me to death}…
and the doctor said it was either the infection moving to my kidney’s or a reaction to the medicine {which turned out to be the latter}…
He told me to get into my midwives the next day as soon as possible.
And of course that night – my mind, and heart were racing!Before going to bed I felt prompted to go on facebook and ask for prayer,
where I knew family and friends would see it, and care and pray…
but I hesitated.
I’ll be honest. I was a bit embarrassed to ask for prayer…
I could envision the eyes rolling like, “what’s up with this girl now? it’s just one thing after another with her!”
Feeling somehow that I was being dramatic or whiny and complaining.
Not wanting to come across as one of those “energy drainer” kind of people.And really.
bottom line.
what it is…
I just don’t like being weak.
Admitting I need others.
I need help.
I can’t do it alone.But there it is.
And that’s just it.I am weak.
I do need others.
I need help.
and no. I can’t always {ever} do it on my own.Yes. God is our “Satisfier” and provides all we need…
but people are one of His favorite channels to use to do just that!We need the Aaron’s in our lives to come lift our hands when we don’t feel the strength to do it ourselves.
Praise God for those kind of people!!!So. I stuck my little status thingy up.
“Needing prayer.. for healing. rest. and peace.”Sure the enemy came in and wanted to trip me up with what some might think of my vulnerableness or “neediness”..
but I’ll tell you this —
I slept better that night than I had in more than a week!
Solid. Uninterrupted by having to go the bathroom a million times.
and peaceful.
And woke up feeling so much better… which I knew….
I knew was something much deeper than just getting a good night’s rest!!God has confirmed to me over and over especially through this pregnancy that prayer is not only powerful… but needed.
And not just for us. for others. for the whole body of Christ. to help unite our hearts in one common goal before the throne of grace.
But how can others pray if they don’t know? If we’re too proud or embarrassed or whatever to open our mouths and ASK.
As one friend said to me, “I WANT to pray for you.. I can’t always do other things. But hey, I can pray.”So I’m grateful~ not only for the healing God has brought to my body the last few days, but for that special reminder…
we.are.not.alone.
And weren’t intended to be!
A special thanks to those “Aaron’s” in my life this past weekend…
Anna. Mike. Susie. Mom {who never ceases to amaze me with her servants heart}. and of course, Shayne {who just never ceases to amaze me}
Yesterday was our first warm day after a spell of some cold rains..
so the kids and I headed outside.
I’m still feeling a bit weak, but loved laying on the blanket soaking up the sunshine…
and then venturing around a nearby little pond, spotting turtles and finding grapevines to swing on!Seeing this sign reminds me of something Ben said to me last week~
“Mom, how come people only want to save the cute animals?”
“What do you mean, bud?”
“Well.. people talk about the poor dolphins getting caught in the tuna traps… “
“Yeah.. “
“Well what about the poor TUNA!!!”
good point.
I’m one of those people that has absolutely no sales resistance.
If your child is a girl scout send her to my house and I will buy one of every box of cookies…
possibly two.So several weeks back.. at the beginning of this pregnancy when I was having to sit alot and take it easy,
I was watching more tv than normal.
And I don’t know what it is but I get so sucked into those infomercial things!
{I guess it’s the lack of sales resistance thing}I’d seen this one several times for a hair product and since it was on a day where my hair looked especially crappy,
and I happened to have a bit of birthday money left.. I decided to give it a try.It took a month to get to me.
Which I wasn’t happy about.But now that I’ve got it I’ve forgotten all that.
I think I really like it.
It’s supposed to be some kind of revolutionary organic stuff that doesn’t strip your hair of it’s natural oils.
Shayne says it’s probably just Suave that’s in a fancy bottle and it’s all psychological!
Maybe.
But I like the psychological way it’s making my hair look!!
and I don’t think I would have enjoyed that juicer or 100 piece set of tupperware I almost bought instead nearly as much!!
I also love this new stuff I bought.
I like a powder with a bit of a shine.
I think it helps makes you look less pasty and just.. brighter!Besides. I happen to think it’s really pretty.
Another psychological thing I’m sure. :p
And.
I have never ever ever been one to recommend a sunless tanning anything…
trust me. I had tried them all.. and no matter what they promise,
I would still end up looking like I was rusting at the joints!But a few weeks ago when I was desperate to wear some of my cute spring skirts,
but not liking the blinding white of my legs sticking out the bottom …
I found myself re visiting those jars and bottles once again that had been taboo. :/I actually found this one where the nail supply stuff is in Target!
And I really think it works.
seriously.I put lotion on my legs and arms first before applying it…
then spray some in my hands and rub it on.
It doesn’t seem to have that giveaway orange look of most sunless tanners ~
or that weird smell. what is with that?
But still – as basic rule for any sunless tanners – use with caution.
just sayin.
It does seem to wash off easy with soap and water.
No heavy chemicals or metals brushes required!
What’s some of your all time favorite “girly” products you love?
I heard this song the other day, and it always makes me smile..
it’s a favorite of mine and I found this youtube version that cracks me up.
Check out the hair! How did they even get it to do that?
And we thought music videos hadn’t been around that long!Sure. Sometimes it’s hard to be a woman.
but most of the time, ya gotta admit…
it’s all rather FUN!!!
Hope you’re enJOYing the day~
amber.




















Comments (44)
I began singing that song in my mind the moment I read your title!!
I just want you to know I never once thought, “what’s up with this girl now? it’s just one thing after another with her!” I immediately lifted a prayer even before I finished reading the symptoms. I don’t say that to toot my own spiritual horn – just to let you know that you have so many friends – whether intimate friends or simply Xanga friends – who are on your side and praying/hoping the very best for you. I am thankful y’all caught this problem before it went too far.
Hope you continue to feel better!
Funny…I’ve often wondered about those Wen products. I just always assume that anything is a sham after being burned once upon ordering something from an infomercial last year. Glad it’s workin’ for ya!
And yes, we really do all need each other! Sometimes it’s the feeling-safe-enough-to-be-vulnerable that gets me stuck. I’m so thankful for the safe people God has blessed me with, while I just smile and wave at the others! (okay, so maybe it’s more like grit my teeth and mumble)
Glad you’re feeling better!!
me, too…about the wen products. i have the wildest hair ever!! wonder if this would help?? thanks for the “banish white legs” tip!!
i will be tryin it. ha.
still chilly enough here for leggings!
Awwww I am so glad you put that status up the other day so I knew to pray. Glad that everything is going better now… I’m just gonna keep praying for you until you are holding that baby in your arms!!!
yes, yes! (And then after that…it will be a whole different type of prayers!)
…and you got that Wen stuff??? I was babysitting late one night, the kids were in bed, so I started watching TV and saw an infomercial for it….looks pretty cool. Let me know how it works, cause I seriously thought about trying it!
Love the spring pix…. those puppies are HUGE now!! crazy!!
Hope you have a great afternoon!! love ya, sis~
yls~
Oh, I’m laughing at the video. My oldest son asked what I was listening to…I feel really old right now.
I’ve seen the Wen on commercials and have wondered how it all works. I love how getting pretty things makes me feel so good, my hubby doesn’t understand it. I tell him it’s a girl thing
. A new shade of lip gloss makes the stress of the day fade away.
I hope you have a great day! Praying for you, friend.
The puppies are so big and so fluffy!
Peonies are my favorites. =)
I’m glad you are feeling better. Thank you for asking for prayer the other day. I like being reminded to pray for people and it is always good to know when someone needs extra prayer.
Your puppies are getting so big! Fortunately they look like they are fairly calm and sweet dogs. They look very huggable.
I also really like the pictures of the peonies…looking forward to when they bloom again.
I’ve looked at those Wen products on QVC, but figured “it can’t be that good!”. Might have to rethink that.
We DO need each other. I think we far underestimate the power of prayer!! My husband has recently been to the doctor with persistant blood in his urine. Despite antibiotics, etc. He told the children over dinner that he was having some tests for “blood in my pee”. WeeeeEElllllll, they both told him that they had added him to the prayer lists in their classes. He asked, why? He was sort of mortified to find out they had told their entire classes he had “blood in his pee”.
. I think it is a pride thing. We DON’t want people to think we don’t have it all together!! We all need prayer!
thanks for sharing from your heart. I think problem pregnancies are given to those of us (my name included here) to bring our “self-sufficiency” to the surface so God can deal with it!! I’ve been there done that…still working on relying on God all the time for everything. I like to think I’m in good control of my circumstances.
Have a wonderful day. I love your peony bouquet!!
I am not very girly at all, but i love my kinerase moisturizer.
othet than that i dab a little eye makeup and go.
froo foo smells give me migraines although i LOVE them…i can’t wear them.
glad all is well….you should find me on facebook!
Somehow I missed your request for prayer. I’m glad you are doing okay again.
Blessings upon blessings,
Doris
“God is our “Satisfier” and provides all we need…
but people are one of His favorite channels to use to do just that!”~ yes, so very very true!
Thanks for the sunless tanning tip~ I’m always on the lookout.
That video was a HOOT! Yeah.. I always like to put on my sparkly dress and sit out on the porch! LOL! The hair was really something. I used to tease my hair back in the 70′s, but she looks like she drove hers INSANE!
I am sorry you have been struggling with this stupid infection thingie. I’m glad all is well with the baby. I would love to be an Aaron in your life, my friend. You are a treasure. I so appreciate your honesty and your willingness to tell it like it is. I know sometimes I keep my problems to myself, too, though. I think it comes from years of being a pastor’s wife. Everyone brings their problems to you, but you are supposed to be strong and problem free. Riiiiiiiiight! I’m on FB, or you can e-mail me anytime. Remember, here in Denmark I am up when you are sleeping, so I can pray you through the night! HUGS!
Oh!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I’m SOOOOO glad you gave a review of the sunless tanning stuff. I have some sunless tan lotion by Revlon- and talk about “rusting at the joints” OH. My. I’ve been so embarrassed looking down and seeing my ankles that looked like I haven’t had a bath since I made that mud bath in preschool! The good thing about the lotion is that it has sparkly glitter in it and I really like that.
I know! How girly? right?
The pictures you’ve posted are beautiful. I always enjoy your pictures and glimpses into your life.
My favorite perfume is Mariella Burani. It’s a musky amber scented perfume that you can only find on Amazon now.
And my other fave girly product is: http://www.whatshebuys.com/pehobashcr16.html
You can buy it at Nordstroms and Neiman Marcus for a gazillion dollars or look at Marshalls and TJ Maxx and get it for only $5.99
You don’t have to wonder which one I do!!!
I had the same infection you have when I was carrying Sarah. So ouchy.
Hugs to ya, Amber! Are you going to change your name to Hutch6?
OH! And I love baby oil for skin and Vaseline for lips. I know.. not too trendy, but good and cheap stuff. When my hair gets dry, I give it a treatment with warm olive oil.
I almost bought that wen stuff this weekend- but then I heard to cancel the automatic shipments is a hassle so I didn’t.
Glad you are feeling better.
oooo ~ the peonies are gorgeous ~
On the way to church Sunday, Jeff was telling me how happy he was to NOT be a girl. I love it, it is hard sometimes, but so fun! I’m glad you’re feeling better. Isn’t it funny how infomercials can suck you right in?!?!?! Glad your hair is working better. I’ve never heard of that stuff. Cute pictures of the kids, I like Ben looking through the fence. Your puppies are not so tiny anymore either! I hope we get to see you guys too! It would be so fun. I’ll keep praying for ya!!! =) Have a good rest of your week.
I am so glad you are feeling better Amber, and it was a blessing to pray for you the other night. I will keep on praying for you and baby dear. Praying for you both through this pregnancy. I agree it can be hard to be a woman in some of these ways, yet such a blessing in others, right?! Like feeling that baby move inside of you!
Thank you for sharing on the prayer and being open. Been thinking I should do that too, as I have had need lately. I can attest to those prayers being such a blessing, I too hesitate because of always needing prayer. But, I really do! I have had a chronic illness since in my 20′s and it is just getting harder as I age. But yeah, hard to ask. I will take this as a prod to make a post soon.
Love my squalane from drlark.com Just need that moisture for my face. Well, I would slather more on arms and legs if I could, so I need to look at their other moisturizers. I use coconut oil from the health food store for massage oil…works great…and is food oil so what you are absorbing into your skin is good for you. I like Mary Kay makeup. Have tried others but end up going back to that. Recently bought a light floral scent for everyday. Funny my hubby and David haven’t said anything. I will find out next week, my middle son is coming, and he will mention if a scent smells good
I like it! It is a Hawaiian scent: Pikake – I think the name is also the flower, with some Peony and lotus in it. Very light scent. Makes me feel pretty.
Been wanting some pretty springy clothes of late…must be a girl thing. Can’t really afford it now, so trying to make use of things I have and enjoy them a new way!
Dude, If anyone could sell hair product it would be YOU!!! You should send in a video to those folks and see if they can give you some “testimonial” credit (cash).
I’m glad you asked for prayer. And I know how you feel. I always HATE to ask for it…… for whatever reason. You’re right though, it is SOOO important!!
I’ve got to say that I could never stand that term “energy drainer”.
Can you imagine a more unbiblical, ungodly and unloving term??
It certainly doesn’t describe you…… or anyone for that matter, right?
Can’t wait to see you this Summer… Jay told us Josh’s engagement story last night. ~ So Sweeeeeet!
I just realized today that I hadn’t heard from you in awhile and said a prayer for you. So glad to hear you are doing better.
When I was a MK consultant I loved people like you…. buy everything, don’t need to think very long etc. This world needs all kinds of people… otherwise it would be flat out boring.
Happy Easter to you and your family.
I love Tammy Wynette, I used to sing that song with gusto when I was a kid!
For years I was cheap, cheap, cheap, when it came to make-up because I hated spending the money but I am finding now that I’m older and not spending so much on the kids, I’m being a little more picky and willing to spend a few more dollars on myself, so I’ve been perusing the cosmetics more and find it all rather intoxicating–there is so much product to chose from! What I really hate is when you find something you really like, then the next time you go to buy it, it’s been discontinued…grrrrrr.
Amber, I’m sure most who visit here would agree…it is our priveledge to pray with you and for you and your baby as well as the rest of the Hutchins family. We are invested here, following your journey and I think it’s true that we really, really, really care! I do understand the feeling of being hesitant though. Sometimes we feel like we’ve used up our prayer request quotent…where did we ever get that idea? It’s certainly not Biblical…pray without ceasing…for all the saints, all the time. We do need each other. I know for myself, just the “thought” that a prayer is being offered on mine or my families behalf, by someone other than myself, brings me sense of comfort and releif…I’m not in it alone.
I can just imagine your fright the other night. Big hug to you and I’m so glad all is well! With LOVE and PRAYERS~Dawne
p.s. I loved Ben’s observation…very keen!
asing for prayer sweetie, doesnt make you any less of a person, we are your friends, your family, we want to pray for you, with you, how ever we can. we serve a big God and yes we are so far away there is nothing we can do but Pray, I prayed for you that night, I am glad you had a great sleep. God Bless you and Happy Easter
craziest thing I ever bought was a “free” safe. you know, you bought these coins that were being sold WAY under value in order to get a safe. that was free. makes no sense, I realize but nonetheless, I bought it. normally, Brad would be less than happy when these things occur but this one was so ridiculous, he just doubled over laughing.
the ONLY great girly tip I know….and I just figured out, is a remedy for dry, cracked heels. My feet are horrible. I prefer them bare or in flip flops which means they are really, REALLY dry. At night, before bed, rub Cetaphil or Eucerin lotion on them and put socks on. A couple nights of this, and they’re almost as good as a baby’s feet.
If you can’t sleep with socks on, well then your hosed. You’ll just have to have nasty feet.
Glad you’re feeling better. You’re exactly right on trusting your instincts. It’s YOUR body. Being vulnerable is humbling, but such a necessary thing.
Love you and hope you have a great rest of the week!
Stacey
had a lot of comments going thru my head…while scrolling down this lovely post. hope i can remember them all now!
* UTI’s! i’m the queen of them! seriously, i have been plagued with them all my early married life! i was on antibiotics during my entire pregnancy. i. hate. them. with. a. passion. oh! i have the greatest sympathy for anyone getting them!!!!! feeling like you have to go constantly….then burning like wild fire when you do. fever. chills. ahhh! i could go on and on. but….i guess what you had is a bit different. NOT FUN! SO GLAD you figured it all out! and it wasn’t TOO serious! i understand about feeling like a “case”….and asking for prayer. again. i’m SO GLAD you beat the devil down….and did. and God blessed you for it!
* your children are just precious. and beautiful. and naturally beautiful. <3
* your puppies got HUGE! :-O
* all your beautiful pics of peonies (one of my favorite flowers). tell me. are they blooming where you are? WOW! i can almost smell their heady fragrance from here!
<3 you!!!! (another comment)
that funnyface shot of kate is like “hello, mini-amber~*!”
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Funny, just today I dug out a dusty bottle of sunless tan enhancer. Thanks for the heads up on a better product.
So sorry about your problems, and hey, don’t feel bad to ask for prayer!
Blessings~
@bakersdozen2 -
yeah, i know right? i hated all those “labels” back then.. but they’ve forever stuck with me and are like mental roadblocks at times. :/
@DawneElla -
well sometimes i think it’s not so much feeling like my “prayer request quota” is used up… because with the “safe people” in my life i feel just that – safe to always ask. where i get tripped up and where i’ve been burned a few times is when you go and kinda stick something out there in a public forum like here or facebook where there are those reading it who don’t necessarily have the same motive~ weird how those are the ones that shouldn’t matter.. but we can “fear” them nonetheless. just all that same stuff i wrote about recently that God’s been freeing me up in~ so grateful for the ones that i know no matter what.. even if i am being all drama queenish or whatever they happily extend the “grace card”.. like collect 200 dollars and advance to GO!!
those kind of people. love them. like you.
sheesh. we all need friends with pockets full of grace cards, eh?
i should stick a giant DISCLAIMER here for all you who go buy Wen now and then hate it and can’t get your money back or it turns your hair green or something more dreadful!!!
remember take my advice with a grain of salt..
after all – i’m a highly hormonal pregnant lady that changes her mind on a moments notice.
I’m so glad I’ve gotten back on here and could see what you’ve been going through! Thank you for the reminder that we were not meant to be alone! I pray for you every time I think of you! Oh, I love the tip about the Sally Hansen tanning product! I just might try it! My legs are horridly white! I’m suprised a wild animal hasn’t mistaken my hiking legs for fresh meat. I have a few girly items I enjoy; a sample tube of an insanely expensive perfume from Nordstrom, ANYthing from Anthropolgie, a pair of pearl earings my friend Teresa made, the nail polishes that I use to achieve that french nails look. As for being a woman, I love it better now at this age! ( 8
I wanted to buy that hair product for that very reason – most shampoos have detergent that strip our hair of natural oils and then we over produce MORE oil and we are grease heads! I’ve gone over to washing the crown of my head with a mixture of baking soda and water and then rinsing the ends with vinegar. Seriously – my hair has never looked better. I even convinced hubby to try it and he LOVES it.
I’m so glad you are feeling better. I’ll have to find you on FB so I can keep up with you! Love you!
so glad to hear you are feeling better….how scary.
adorable pictures and those puppies are getting soo big
Love the pictures – especially the ones of the peonies – they won’t grow here in my part of TX and I miss them!
I agree with the others, it is a privilege to pray for my friends. God often uses prayer for others to help me get my focus off of myself. I often find myself in your place though, finding it difficult to share a need. God tells us to bear one another’s burdens, and we have to let each other do that!
I could go on all day about favorite girly products! I love the Satin Lips products by Mary Kay, ’cause they keep my lips moisturized and not all “flaky”. This means that I can enjoy another favorite product which is a good lipstick or lip balm. I LOVE Lipstick!!!
My recent favorite thing to do is give myself a home manicure or pedicure. I use Mary Kay products, but there is probably an equivalent product that you could use to do it. Take two small hand towels and get them wet. Wring out the excess water and then roll them up. Microwave them (how long depends on the microwave) until they are very warm, but not too hot to touch. Put a little bit of a thick moisturizer and some body scrub into your hand, and then rub all over your feet. (I use MK Extra Emollient Night Cream, and MK Loofah Body Cleanser) Wrap each foot in a warm, damp handtowel. Then wrap both feet in a bathtowel to keep them nice and warm (and to prevent a big damp spot on the floor!) Sit for 15 minutes and enjoy a quiet cup of tea and a book! (Or do like I do and sit at the computer and get some stuff done!) Remove the towels and brush away any remaining scrub. You won’t have much left and you will have really soft, happy feet. (I have also done this with my hands after a long day of gardening!)
I saw your facebook status, and was immediately concerned. I’m so glad that things are ok with you and the baby!!!! Thanks for the girly tips! I too have experienced the aweful orange self tanners that make you smell like chicken nuggets.
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I’m glad you feel better! I am a pushover for buying things too! I’m going to have to try that revlon powder!
You know I pray for you several times, each and every day. But, I admit, the past few days I have prayed specifically for you and your health AND you peace of mind. I hope all is well and in “working order” again by now!
i know its so hard to ask for prayer sometimes. ~ i think we all just have to be led by the Holy Spirit in knowing when and who. I am noy going to stop praying for u or that Baby!!!
One of my favorite “girly” things is SHEA BODY BUTTER by Tree Hut. I love the Brazilian Nut one, but smell them all! Actually it’s not so girly – my dear hubby likes it too. It smells good enough to eat and the texture is lovely. I give it as gifts and everyone I’ve ever given it to, loves it too! Walmart carries it…
I can VERY much relate to the thing of not wanting to be a “wimp” on “needy” and that person that is always having some big problem they are dealing with. But I also completely agree about “How can people pray for us if they don’t know our needs?” So…good for you for laying aside your pride and asking for prayer. God most def. does work through prayer and I am so glad that He confirmed that to you again! Also, I am much obliged to you for the sunless tanning spray tip. I have never found anything that works either. Does it just stay on for one day…like when you shower, would it come off? Also, that Revlon blush or whatever is a very pretty color! I like it a lot. I have a feeling that if/when you and I meet in real life, we could sit down and talk for a really long time. And I could admire your gorgeous hair!
Have a blessed Easter weekend, Amber!
I’ll have you know that you’re included in my prayers each night. I have a couple other friends that are prego right now too and one of the two has expericenced some difficulty in previous pregnancies as well. So–all three of you names are included. I wouldn’t think you were whining or anything like that! : )
I love the “dolphin/tuna” thing. Nothing like big hearts! : )
I saw that hair stuff advertised too! I thought about ordering it too!!
And next year, when Lilly is selling her candy bars for softball, expect a visit! : P
I’m very grateful that you and the baby are okay. Thank You, Jesus!
So sorry for another bump with your BumP!
Glad that you are feeling better.
I don’t love you in spite of when you are raw, feeling needy and asking for prayer. no.no.no!
I love you even more because of it ~ that’s what makes you so connect-able, relate-able and real-able! Love-able!!!
I really can’t hang out with someone who has arrived~or feels the need to convince that they have!
I know that my junk will leak out all over and I don’t need any more judgement or condemnation.
Just someone to come along side…and be my friend.
You have that about you! And I love you for it!
Any make up product that I fall in love with gets discontinued!
My all time favorite nail color is Revlon’s Blackberry. And I can’t find it anywhere anymore!
I am still trying to make the little bit that I have left, work, even tho it’s getting a bit yucky!!!
Something simple that brightens my day is scented bodywash and lotion. so fun.
talk soon. k?
Loved this post and I love all things girly! I fall for really gimmicky girly products, too – whoops! I really wanted a bump-it forever! Ha! My hair stylist actually just recommended the Wen products to me. Can you tell me more? (Maybe you could write a whole review and get compensated! {wink})
I will be praying that you feel all better soon and that your baby is safe and sound.